The 15 Top Misconstrued Myths and Misnomers of Male Sexuality

The 15 Top Misconstrued Myths and Misnomers of Male Sexuality

You heard it countless times: men and sex are two concepts that go together – always. Since time immemorial, history books will tell you how men crave sex all the time, and only sex will satisfy that craving. That’s just how it is.

Fast forward to today, and the perception about men and sex has changed. While some still hold true, there are many things you heard about make sexuality that are no longer applicable today. In fact, society is starting to accept and re-evaluate new ideas on what is expected from men.

So, what are these misnomers anyway? Stick around, because here are 15 surprising myths about male sexuality – debunked.

1. A Living Sex Machine: Men Want Sex All the Time

Men Want SexOnce upon a time, someone said that men think about sex every seven seconds, proving the point that men are sex maniacs. You might encounter someone saying that it’s not every seven seconds, but rather every eight seconds, 13 seconds, or three minutes. This belief stemmed from the nature of men as being more sexually motivated than women are.

Here’s the truth: This is not true. Men think about sex often, but this does not mean you do it every seven seconds, or more than 8,000 sexual thoughts in the 16 hours when you are awake.

According to researchers from Ohio State University, men only think about sex 19 times a day. In fact, you think about other things too, like food, sleep, exams, presentations with clients, and other important things.

This leads us to yet another surprising sex myth.

2. Men Are More Interested in Sex Than Women Are

You think about sex most of the time. If time permits, you imagine how you want things to end up inside the bedroom as soon as you get home and see your love. Since you think about it more, this follows that you are more interested in sex and want to do it as much as you can.

six-pack absHere’s the truth: The reason why you are more interested in sex is because your sexual organ and sex drive are less mysterious. There are less erogenous spots in your body compared to women. At the same time, what turns you on is just down there and it is up to the lady on how she wants to maximize it.

You might wonder why women care less than you do about sex.

Unlocking a woman’s sexuality is more complicated compared to yours. An image of a man with six-pack abs could excite them, but they will also need touch, trust, assurance and an emotional connection to get their libido up and running. At the same time, women become disinterested in sex because of various factors, like childhood abuse, or stress at work and at home.

3. Kiss Your Sex Life Goodbye When You Get Old Since Sex is Better When You’re Younger

As soon as you learned about sex and masturbation, all you wanted is to practice whatever you learned from books and from watching too many adult films. After all, you only live once, so you might as well enjoy life while you are still young. Can you imagine yourself doing the most outrageous things in bed if you are in your 60’s?

SexHere’s the truth: Sex during your younger years is more fun and pleasurable. You are more able, flexible, more athletic and have higher endurance. At the same time, getting older means a decline in your testosterone levels, which could impact your libido.

Still, this doesn’t mean you cannot enjoy sex or say goodbye to your sex life when you cross the 50’s line. Believe it or not, adults enjoy satisfying and emotionally rewarding sexual experiences, too.

This is because when you reach the old age phase, you focus less on destroying the headboard and getting a quick orgasm. In fact, you will focus more on emotional connections, sensuality, and creativity inside the bedroom. The result: better sex.

4. What Relationship: Men Prefer Sex and Sex Alone

Have you seen the movie Friends with Benefits? It’s about two individuals hooking up and focusing on sex until they fell in love with each other.

Then you realized you are in the same situation. You are seeing this girl for quite some time and things are doing great both in and out of the bedroom. You don’t want to drop the bomb, since so many movies and books say men are supposed to just want sex and not relationships.

Here’s the truth: The Casanova myth is so deeply implanted in the society that people expect you to play around, no strings attached. Apparently, this is not true for everyone. A 2010 study from National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy revealed that two-thirds of men participants prefer having a girlfriend, rather than just goofing around in the bedroom.

What does this mean?

Admit it. You want to be in a secured, loving relationship too – and that’s okay.

5. Size Matters: A Bigger Size Will Make You a Better Lover

Bigger SizeYou’ve seen it in porn films. Male porn stars have the biggest size down south and women love it. This made you believe that the bigger you are down there, the happier your ladylove will be inside the bedroom – and this is a common belief among you and your peers.

Here’s the truth: A man’s penis comes in a variety of shapes and sizes. This also depends on physical factors such as height, weight and even race. Consequently, bigger doesn’t always mean better. In fact, your size has nothing to do with how much pleasure you can give to your partner.

In other words, it all boils down to compatibility between you two inside the bedroom. It is about knowing how to use your man down south to your advantage in order to provide the best sexual experience to your girl. The bottom line is, there is no correlation between your penis size and your performance inside the bedroom.

6. If You Are In the Mood, You Can Get It Up Anytime You Want

There are tons of funny pop culture moments and implanted societal beliefs that might have made you think that your readiness for sex depends on your ability to get it up. It shouldn’t be that hard. If you want sex, every part of your body will work in harmony to make sure you are ready and able to get it up and keep it in that state.

Here’s the truth: There is such a thing called erectile dysfunction, and it affects 30 million men in the United States alone. Erectile dysfunction or ED is the inability to get it up or maintain an erect state needed for sexual intercourse.

Understanding the Common Causes of ED

The causes of ED include the following:

depression– Psychological factors like depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, performance anxiety, and guilt.

– Stress and worrying.

– Relationship issues.

– Medical conditions such as high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, penile injury, diabetes, multiple sclerosis and kidney problems.

– Medications for high blood pressure, diabetes and more.

In other words, sexual arousal could manifest in variety of ways aside from erections. At the same time, not being able to get it up doesn’t automatically mean that you are not in the mood. This is related to the next male sexual myth.

7. To Enjoy Sex, Your Man Down South Must Cooperate the Entire Time

Your idea of sex is getting your man up, making sure that she is wet down there, and achieving orgasm as you reach the finish line. This means your man down south should cooperate to be able to ensure that you will get the most out of this experience.

Here’s the truth: You don’t always need an erection to enjoy sex. There is a reason why foreplay is an important part of the sexual experience – and this phase does not require an erection.

The truth is many women enjoy foreplay. With the magic of your hands, lips and tongue working as one, you can take her to a different world and make the experience arousing. The best part is the process of getting her aroused will surely turn you on in a surprising way. Since you made her happy, she will surely repay you in ways you can imagine.

8. Good and Pleasurable Sex Equates to Orgasm

Let’s go back to the girl you are seeing. Every session you have, you always get an orgasm and squirt your juices on her body. It’s a good thing because this means the sex is good and you are having fun doing it.

Here’s the truth: Who doesn’t want great sex every time? However, your ability to ejaculate and reach orgasm does not necessarily follow that you had fun inside the bedroom. The truth is you can still achieve orgasm – and that is a good thing. In fact, it shows that you are multi-orgasmic.

maintain consistent levels of energyThis means you are able to maintain consistent levels of energy, confidence and desire without letting it all out. At the same time, this allows you to magnetically attract interested partners and focus on sex and pleasure more, instead of looking into orgasm as the ultimate prize.

The bottom line is to look into sex in its totality. Don’t focus too much on reaching the finish line to say that you had fun in the bedroom.

There are more myths and misconceptions associated with male sexuality, so make sure you continue reading the rest of this post.

9. The Longer, the Better: How Long You Last in Bed Makes You a Better Lover

What comes to your mind when you hear the word, “quickie?” Quickies can be fun and exciting. Unfortunately for some people, this type of sex is a pale imitation of real sex and a substitute for passionate sex. Some even think that you don’t have enough time and you simply want to “let it out” for the sake of having an orgasm. This deducts the fun and pleasure factor in having sex.

Here’s the truth: Quickies are healthy. In fact, you need to speed things a bit from time to time to spice up your sex life.

have a quickieWhy You Should Have Quickies

You should have a quickie every now and then because it:

– Adds variety to your sex life.

– Maintains emotional and mental connections between couples.

– Reintroduces passion into your sex life.

– Creates less pressure to have long, passionate sexual encounters.

– It can be a sexier way to connect as a couple.

Quickies are still a form of intimacy. They are a way of giving each other sexual activity without asking for too much time.

10. There’s No Such Thing as 21st Century When It Comes to Matters Inside the Bedroom

Society dictates that you are in control. You decide what is best for your family and most of the time, you have the last say. You are always in control, including what will happen inside the bedroom.

Here’s the truth: Most of the time, men take control in almost everything. Still, that doesn’t mean women cannot express what they want to happen in bed. Surprisingly, there are men who love it when women take the lead, including yourself.

Admit it. You want the chase, teasing, arousal and begging. You find it hot when women know what they want and go for it. You get aroused when your partner orders you to lie down and let her take control inside the bedroom. You don’t mind if your lady pushes you on the bed and pins your arms over your head when she is on top.

The important thing is to set a balance. Allow her to take control, and then make her submit to your demands, as well. Be open and honest about what you want and you will surely have the best time of your lives.

11. Perpetually Experienced: You Will Rarely Meet a Virgin Dude Inside the Room

MenMen are supposed to be sex maniacs. You should eat, breathe, and love sex because that is how you were designed. Society and history will tell you that you should think about sex and practice what you learned any chance you get.

This follows that most men you will meet have experience in bed – or do they?

Here’s the truth: Not all men are experienced inside the bedroom. Believe it or not, you will meet guys who are has no experience at all. A survey from Psychology Today revealed that men think one percent of their peers are virgins, but the truth is there 22 percent of men who prefer to wait for their wedding day, which is not a bad idea.

Surely, you have more sexual partners than women because of its masculine effect on your personality. Still, this doesn’t follow that you will not meet a guy who has zero experience in bed.

As to losing your virginity, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention said that the average Americans lost their virginity at 17 years old. Here is the surprising part: the number applies to both men and women. Here is the more surprising part: there are 14.3 percent male virgins between 20 to 24 years old as opposed to 12.3 percent female virgins.

Surprising, don’t you think?

12. Premature Ejaculations: You Can Control Them Like Most Men Do

You are having sex with the most amazing girl. Finally, you feel that you are about to explode and you need to let it out. Since you don’t want to ruin the moment and wait for her to finish, you do your best to control ejaculation, just like most men you think you could. After all, you can’t afford to get embarrassed and ruin your chances to score date number two.

Here’s the truth: Not all men can last long in bed, no matter how much they want to. The reality is there are guys who are simply hardwired for quickies and one minute penetration. Don’t worry. You can still do something about it sans the scary Viagra.

Premature EjaculationTips to Help You Last Longer in Bed

Here are some simple ways to last longer when making love:

– Focus on the feelings your body is having and producing for you, instead of your performance in bed.

– Change positions if you feel that you are getting too close to the edge.

– Take your time and have sex at a slower pace.

– Practice the 7/9 method, using seven fast in and out strokes then followed by nine slow in and out motions.

– Penetrate on the lower portion of her vagina and avoid going too deep.

Exercise your PC muscles to help you control ejaculations.

It may take some time and a lot of practice, but you will get better in making you last longer in bed.

13. Sex is Over as Soon as You’re Done

Let’s say you were able to last longer than your usual time, which is a good thing. You feel that you are about to come so you let it all out. Then, you are done. You were able to achieve the big O, which means sex is over.

It doesn’t have to be that way. Just because you are done, it doesn’t mean that you and your partner will go back to your normal routine.

Here’s the truth: Sex doesn’t have to be over, especially when your partner is not yet over. Instead of focusing on getting your big O, why not slow down and enjoy the journey instead? Take turns in communicating what you want in bed to make sure that both of you are satisfied. Sexual activity doesn’t have to stop just because one finishes earlier than the other.

14. You Don’t Need to Masturbate When You Are in a Relationship

MasturbateWho needs alone time when you have a partner lying next to you? If you are in the mood, give your girl that look and you will surely get some action, or so you thought.

Here’s the truth: Masturbation is less frequent when you are in a relationship because of the availability and convenience of a partner. However, there will come a time when you will need to lock that door and play with yourself for your own pleasure, or just in case your partner is not around.

The Benefits of Masturbation

Masturbation can benefit you because:

– Masturbation is a good way to practice, thus helping you last longer in bed.

– It increases cortisol, a type of hormone that when in its right amount, could regulate and boost your immunity.

– It releases feel-good chemicals like oxytocin and dopamine, thus making you feel good.

– Masturbation promotes healthy blood flow in your genital area.

– It also keeps you connected to your own sexual fantasies and desires.

Just make sure that you don’t overdo it and leave some room for real pleasure from your partner when they are around.

15. You Are More Likely to Cheat and Have an Extramarital Affair

Think about this: you love sex. In fact, you think about it more than your partner. Since she is not available or refuses to do it nearly every time you want to get some action and masturbation bores you, you decided to channel your energy on another person.

This could be the reason why you are more likely to have another woman; because you need an outlet.

relationship with your partner is no longer fulfillingHere’s the truth: Cheating is and will never be okay. However, cheating knows no gender, which means even women can do it, too. Still, there is no excuse for that and you can never justify it just because your partner seldom fixes herself, or she is too busy with other equally important tasks.

If you find yourself in a tempting situation, then the best you can do is to walk away. If your relationship with your partner is no longer fulfilling, then man up and have courage to talk about it. There is a reason why your relationship is falling apart, and the best you can do is to face it and find a solution to the problem. Then, your sex life will follow.

Remember This

What do these debunked myths really mean? You are just a human being. Despite the dictates of the society, you will always have your own set of preferences, beliefs, wants and needs that are different from others. At the same time, you are in control.

Some of these 15 myths and misconceptions may be true and applicable up to this date. Still, don’t let these myths dictate your actions. Find what makes you and your lover happy inside the bedroom.


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